Porn and Sex Addiction Sober Living
Our sober living program blends professional recovery coaching and psychoeducation with the time-tested social model of recovery and challenges addicts to develop new habits, move into a lifestyle of recovery and ultimately develop a new identity. While at Room to Heal, you will be immersed in a community of men who, like themselves, are working to break free from sexual addiction. Situated in a serene setting conducive to healing, the home houses up to six residents (two per bedroom) and is overseen by a house leader.
Recovery coaching is present and future focusing. We identify our "why", build and implement a rock-solid recovery plan, keep our eyes on the destination we want to get to (goal setting) and when we encounter struggles/slips/triggers along the way we learn from them and use the lessons gleaned as opportunities to grow.
Weekly Recovery Coaching Sessions
Process Group - 2X per week
Sex addiction is considered by most professionals to be an intimacy disorder. Our program is effective because we provide the right environment for men to grow in their intimacy, honestly and authenticity. Many of our past residents developed strong friendships for the first time in their lives while living at Room to Heal.
Living with other men who have made similar mistakes and experience the same struggles is validating and comforting, making it easier to be vulnerable and honest.
There are men in the house at all stages of recovery who can model empathy, honesty and authenticity.
Seeing your imperfections manifested in others helps you get real about your own faults.
Living with 6 other men naturally produces friction, which is another good opportunity to get honest with feelings and learn to communicate needs.
Accountability tools are a tool to increase transparency and promote honesty. If you're ready to stop making excuses and submit to our accountability protocols, we can help you get sober.
GPS tracking with Life360
Covenant Eyes software on all devices
Residents are required to get involved in the 12-step community
Attend three meetings per week. At least two of which should be in person.
Find a sponsor who can hold you accountable and help you work the steps.
Read the SAA Green Book to better understand the reason behind the work.
Establish a list of men from the meetings to call and check in with regularly.
We encourage residents to pray, meditate and journal as a means to begin learning to understand your thoughts, feelings and emotions. When you're awareness grows, you'll be better able to protect your sobriety and make more thoughtful decisions.
Empathy and Communication Skills
While at Room to Heal, we'll teach you the skills necessary to communicate more effectively with your partner, hold her pain and help her work through her trauma.
Gentle Assertiveness Communication
AVR Formula (Acknowledge, Validate, Reassure)
Knowledge is power when it comes to discovering yourself, conquering your addiction and healing your marriage.
Brain Science of Addiction
Partner Betrayal Trauma
The Empathy Cycle
Karpman Drama Triangle
Located on 3 private, wooded acres with lake access, Room to Heal is the perfect location to take a deep breath and pursue healing. We provide everything you need to serve as your home away from home.
Fully furnished 4 bedroom house
Space is limited to 6 residents and the house manager
Linens, towels, toiletries included
Fully stocked kitchen and groceries provided
Internet, television and all utilities included
Proximity / Highway Access
Located near 485 and 77
Less than 20 minutes to Uptown Charlotte
5 minutes from Mountain Island Fitness (gym membership included!)
15 minutes to the U.S. National White Water Center
10 minutes to Latta Plantation Nature Preserve
30 minutes to Crowders Mountain State Park
10 minutes to Northlake Mall
5 minutes to shopping center with top-tier grocery store
Residents need to meet and/or agree to these standards in order to live at Room to Heal.
18 years or older
Medically and psychologically stable
Agree to random drug and alcohol screenings
Attend three 12-step meetings per week
Agree to attend most group-discussion sessions
Ready to submit to our program of recovery
I've been in the recovery ecosystem both as an addict pursuing healing and as someone in recovery helping others since 2006. I've seen what works and what doesn't work and know how to help men navigate this journey of recovery.
My relationship with Jesus Christ is the most important relationship in my life. Be it shame or a religiously rigid, authoritarian, upbringing, many men seeking healing have a complicated relationship with God. I can empathize with this because of what I've gone through myself. One of the joys of working with men in this field is seeing them develop a robust spiritual life and embrace who God says they are in Him.
As a recovery coach, my goal is to help men establish the habits and life skills needed to get sober and live a full life in recovery.
Please don't hesitate to call or send me a text. I want to be a resource regardless of whether you stay at Room to Heal.