Partner Program
First, take a deep breath. You’ve arrived at a safe place and we understand your circumstances.
My name is Lisa, co-founder of Room to Heal and wife of a recovering sex addict. I’ve been in your shoes, so I know the relentless, physical heartache you’ve carried in your chest since the moment you first learned of your partner’s betrayal. I understand the unfairness of the situation that’s been forced upon you – a profound, all-encompassing sucker punch that came out of nowhere. It would be impossible to prepare yourself for something like this and yet … here you are.
As with any other loss, you need the support and space to mourn and rebuild. Our program can offer you the space, support and education needed to grieve and mourn your losses while your husband begins the journey of recovery. Then, once you're both on more solid ground, we'll begin to slowly address the damage the betrayal has had on your relationship and walk with you until you're both walking along side one another renewed.
Individual Coaching
Our female recovery coaches have also experienced betrayal and are equipped with the tools and training to help you find safety, work through the stages of anger and grief and ultimately find restoration for yourself and your marriage.
While your husband stays at Room to Heal, you'll receive a weekly recovery coaching session that can be in person or virtual.
Community
One of the best things you can do is surround yourself with supportive women who understand your pain and can support you through this journey.
We've brought on an expert group facilitator, Pam Blizzard, to run a weekly, virtual partner group specifically for Room to Heal partners. This will be a small, intimate group with 4-6 participants.
Education
Your husband's betrayal probably feels excruciatingly personal, but through education we hope to empower you to see that none of his behavior was your fault and there is a path to healing.
Our recovery coaches are well-versed in the latest research and recovery tools. Each week, they'll provide education in addition to addressing your immediate needs.
Testimonials
Here's what other women in your situation had to say about working with Room to Heal.
After discovering my husband’s affair, porn addiction and sex addiction, I was distraught and traumatized. We became trapped in a toxic cycle of fighting, and he needed help and guidance to get his issues under control. After he came home from inpatient treatment, he still had a lot of work to do, and I needed space away from him so I could focus on my own therapy and healing journey as a betrayed wife. I didn’t feel comfortable with the idea of him staying alone in a hotel, and we weren’t ready to make a commitment to separating and him moving into his own apartment. We heard about Room To Heal from our CSAT therapists. We took a chance and my husband moved in to Room To Heal to continue his recovery while giving me my own space to focus on myself. Knowing that he was living in a safe, structured, sober environment gave me the peace of mind to be able to relax and work on myself and my own healing journey. Meanwhile, he was able to focus on his individual recovery and therapy while building healthy habits. Like the name says, it truly does give both the addict and the partner “Room To Heal” and a safe place to grow and recover from the trauma of sexual addiction and betrayal. Andrew and Lisa truly want to help others and have been invaluable resources during this scary, tumultuous time in our lives.
C.L.
In what ways did taking space from your husband benefit your recovery?
After discovery we were in a constant state of turmoil, uncertainty and hypervigilance. Through our therapeutic separation I was able to just focus on my own healing journey without constantly being re-activated by him. I knew that he was being held accountable at Room to Heal and although it was an extremely difficult time, I strongly believe our relationship would not have survived without it.
In what ways did Lisa and Andrew support you through this process?
Lisa was a wonderful voice of calm and wisdom during a very confusing time. We met up and talked on the phone several times as well as texted back and forth.
Would you recommend RtH to other women frustrated by their husbands lack of progress or investment in their recovery?
Absolutely. Without a doubt.
How did the community at Room to Heal benefit your husband?
For the first time in his life he had friends that truly knew him (his words).
What changes have you noticed?
I have seen better communication, true remorse, brokenness (in a good way) and empathy skills.
A. B.
In what ways did Lisa and Andrew support you through this process?
It was helpful to have a wife who understands what I have been through. Andrew helped me understand my husband's perspective (the addict is what he would say). They both answered my calls and made time for me if I needed to chat (or scream). They both helped me stay in reality.
Did you find the boundaries establishment process helpful?
Yes- I had NO clue what I was doing or how it was going to go down. I am very thankful we did that.
Did you feel confident that your husband was safe at Room to Heal? Meaning, did you feel good about the level of accountability provided?
YES, Andrew kept reassuring me. I love it that they have process group and are asked to attend meetings. He was encouraged to get sober. Andrew was patient with my h as he tried to still lie. Loved knowing my H had responsibilities at the house which he now does back home too!! Bless you.
Would you recommend RtH to other women frustrated by their husbands lack of progress or investment in their recovery?
YES- It proved to be so much better then I thought. I had no clue when my H left that morning that I too had started a road to recovery that day. We both changed during the time apart. He is doing recovery for him and I am doing it for me.
How did the community at room to heal benefit your husband?
He didn't have male friends until R2H. Now he does and still stays in contact with them! I am so grateful.
Have you seen an increase in honesty and integrity since he’s been home? YES. I see him working his plan to be honest and stay sober.
What other changes have you noticed?
A desire to attend groups, to be a a sponsor, to help me feel safe, desire to respect me, desire to check in with the guys, desire to speak truth, desire to be a new man.
Do you think he was would have made this same progress at home?
HAHA- is this a trick question? One of us would be dead if that happened.
K.D.
Contact Us
To schedule a free consultation to see if we're the right fit for you, complete the form below or call us at (704) 452-4596.
We are more than happy to speak with the person struggling with addiction, his family members or his partner or spouse.
